Muslimah Life Coaching – Goals Made Simple

Are you a Muslimah (female Muslim) that is struggling to achieve the goals you set? You may want to consider a Life Coach!

A Life Coach is someone who helps you to stay focused, and on track, in the direction of your goals. If you are looking for motivation and a sense of direction contact me and we can work together in helping you achieve your goals, in sha Allah!

Do you want to:

*Improve your health

*Lose weight and get fit

*Have a great marriage

*Clear away debts

*Raise your income

*Improve your relationship with your children and/or family members

*Grow your business

*Stop sinning

*Be more modest

*Start a halal work from home business

*Observe proper hijab with confidence

*Feel at peace, content and happy

*Gain confidence and clarity

*Memorize the Quran

*Manage your anger/mood

*Improve your Salah

*Improve your relationship with food

*Follow the sunnah

Whatever the goal I can help you work towards achieving it, in sha Allah!

You will be working with a Muslimah as well so that you can be, in sha Allah, comfortable and relaxed while committed to your goals.

I can assist you in forming a plan of action towards your goals as well as deciding what you actually want to do, have, be and achieve in your life.

Do you want to put a stop, in sha Allah, to the cycle of setting a goal and not achieving it (or perhaps not even making progress towards it) then a Life Coach may be your perfect option!

If you are interested then please submit the form, by clicking here, and I will get back to you soon, in sha Allah. I can, in sha Allah, find the best method to work within your budget and personal needs. We can work via Skype text chat, Skype voice chat, email sessions, facebook text chat, etc. Whatever you are most comfortable with. Let me know and I can, in sha Allah, accommodate you.

If you want to learn more then feel free to click here to learn more!

Jazak Allah Khayr (May Allah reward you with goodness)!

IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: 

Hiring a Life Coach does NOT guarantee that you will achieve the goals you set. I am merely here to help you “tie your camel” (1) and take purposeful action towards the goals that you have. Allah is the one who allows us to receive what we want or prevents us from it. We should, in conjunction with “tying our camels” (1) also make sincere dua to Allah for Him to make us attain the things/goals we desire to have/achieve, in sha Allah.

 

(1) Anas ibn Malik reported: A man said, “O Messenger of Allah, should I tie my camel and trust in Allah, or should I leave her untied and trust in Allah?” The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Tie her and trust in Allah.”

Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2517

Grade: Hasan (fair) according to Al-Albani

[The above hadith seems to be signifying the importance that we should ask Allah for help but we should also do the things necessary to achieve our goals.]

 

10 Amazing Benefits of Salah (Prayer) and Wudu

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Very few people may realize that the proper form of praying and wudu actually have many various health and mental benefits.

1. Science Daily reported from Birmingham University that, “proper movements in Muslim prayer ritual can reduce lower back pain.” Also, “the complex physical movements of the ritual can reduce lower back pain if performed regularly and properly.” We must remember to pray properly as hypocrites pray improperly. “If he does not go through the postures of standing, bowing and prostration calmly then his prayer is like a hen pecking all the seeds spread on the ground.” (The Signs of the Hypocrites : Al Huda Publications)

2. Also, Independent.co.uk reported that, “the kneeling posture, known as sujood, apparently increases the elasticity of joints.” Furthermore, “prayer can eliminate physical stress and anxiety, while there is also research that indicates prayer rituals can be considered an effective clinical treatment of neuro-muskuloskeletal dysfunction.” The paper this research has been based on was titled, “An ergonomic study of body moons during Muslim prayer using digital human Modeling.” This paper was published in the, “International Journal of Industrial and Systems Engineering.”

3. Also, what is interesting is that 12 Rakah are said to be equal to 30 minutes of light exercise! (University of Malaya Medical Centre – Cardiology Consultant Specialist Prof Dr Wan Azman Wan Ahmad)

4. Also, in the article [Kamran G. Physical Benefits of (Salah) prayer – Strengthen the faith & fitness. J Nov Physiother Rehabil. 2018; 2: 043-053. DOI: 10.29328/journal.jnpr.1001020] there are many mentions of the healing benefits of Salah. “Each position involves the movement of different parts of the human body in ways that some muscles contract isometrically (same length) and some contract in approximation or isotonically (same tension). The prayer movements would enhance flexibility and general muscular fitness. This results in moderate physical exercise particularly to the large muscle group and encourage health and well-being. Besides being an excellent form of exercise, physical activity breaks the monotony of chores.”

5. Furthermore, “Salah involves continuous gentle muscle contraction and relaxation with perfect harmony and balance. It involves different types of stretching and isometric contraction exercises. These gentle & simple exercises are suitable for all ages & conditions.”

6. “There is an even distribution of weight through both feet throughout the practice of Qayyam posture. This will ease the balance of the body and lower back brought into a neutral position whilst activating the core muscles at the same me. This position aids to straighten the back and improves posture.” Ruk’u, “strengthens the back, extends the spine and increases the flexibility of hips and hamstrings. It relieve the stiffness at spine, neck, and back and help to improves posture as well as balance and co-ordination.” Tasshahhud, “prevents restricted joint range which is most commonly seen in patients with degenerative knee problems.” Sujood, “allows abdominal muscles contraction to be activated and prevents flabbiness.” “This posture combined with other exercises opens
the lower lumbar facet joints may help to reduce the lower back pain and sciatica can be used to treat spinal stenosis and other degenerative disc diseases.”

7. “Al- Gazal (2006) and Ayad (2008) stated that prostration is the only position in which the head is in a position lower than the heart and therefore, receives increased blood supply to the brain, stimulates the brain’s frontal cortex. This reduces the chances of brain hemorrhage and headache, helps to reduces high blood pressure.” “This surge in blood supply also has a positive effect on memory, concentration, psyche and other cognitive abilities. A study investigated the alpha brain activity during prostration has reported increased amplitude in the parietal and occipital regions suggestive of parasympathec elevation, thus indicating a state of relaxation (Doufesh,2012).”

8. Another amazing thing regarding the health aspects of Islamic prayer is the phenomenon known as “grounding”. This link to prayer is something that was brought to my attention from thedeenshow.com on their video titled, “Amazing Benefits of Prostration in Islam and new science on “Earthing”.” On that videos page it mentions, “people are exposed daily to many different problems. They may also be exposed to many electrostatic charges from the atmosphere. These charges … affect the central nervous systems (CNS) supersaturating it. One has to rid themselves of these extra charges, otherwise, they will have headaches, neck aches, muscle spasms, etc. The best way to get rid of these extra electrostatic charges is by dissipating them and discharging
them from the body. In as much as an electrical appliance is in need of grounding (earthing) by the use of an electric cord, a human being has to “earth” him/herself to the ground as well. By putting, his/her forehead on the ground, because the thinking capacity of the brain is in the forelobe and the topmost portion of the brain, one dissipates the extra electrostatic charges from the brain and the central nervous system to the ground. Therefore, one will receive [peace] of mind and soul. By doing prayer five times a day, with each prayer having several prostrations in it, a person will undoubtedly feel more peace, happiness, and relaxation. This type of approach does not cost money and does not have any side effects. It is very natural. This is the best method for allowing a person to continue to live in peace, harmony, obedience, and happiness for the rest of his/her life.” It is truly amazing that this healing mechanism of grounding/earthing is prescribed to us not only 5 times a day within our prayers but multiple mes during each sujood.

Here is the video mentioned:

9. As far as wudu goes, it is beneficial to increase the circulation in many different parts of your body. It also helps to keep your body clean and refreshed.

10. It has also been said that washing the ears and nose can help prevent them from accumulating harmful bacteria that can make you sick.

Our Creator truly designed us in the best of ways and shows us the perfect way to live!

Here is a video with more information on this amazing subject.

The 3 Super Habits of the Successful

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The secret to success in this life, as well as the next, is to follow what the one who created us tells us to do.

“My success is only by Allah.” Quran 11:88

Allah designed us and therefore knows exactly what is best for us.

“And for those who fear Allah, He will make their path easy.” Quran 65:4

If we take a look at some of, what many would consider to be, the most successful people in the world today we see many striking similarities that can be related back to the Quran and the sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him).

Patience, in the pursuit of your goals, is something that almost everyone, who has ever achieved anything, had to implement into their lives.

“Indeed, the patient will be given their reward without account.” Quran 39:10

Also, waking up early (as well as going to sleep early) is the habit of many who are considered to be successful.

“Sleep is the best meditation.” — Dalai Lama

“Sleep is the golden chain that ties health and our bodies together.” — Thomas Dekker

“Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy, and wise.” — Benjamin Franklin

Celebrities, and many financially successful people, such as Apple CEO Tim Cook, Oprah Winfrey, Michelle Obama, and Richard Branson are all reported to wake up around 4-5am. These are considered to be the most productive hours of the day.

Sakhr ibn al-Ghamidi reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “O Allah, bless my nation in their early morning.”

Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1212

We should strive to begin our most productive and important tasks during these early morning hours. Praying Tahajjud is a great way to start.

”The Dua made at tahajjud is like an arrow that does not miss its target.” — Imaam Ash Shafi (ra)

Combine your daily practice of praying Tahajjud (prior to fajr) with dua [the dua should correlate with your goals in this life and the next] and you will be ready to tackle the day, in sha Allah. You will also have taken a very important, and powerful, step towards achieving your goals, in sha Allah.

It is also very important to go to bed early. Ideally, you should go to sleep directly after aisha prayer so that it can, in sha Allah, match your bodies seasonal/circadian rhythm. Allah designed us perfectly so we should follow what we are commanded to do for the benefit of ourselves and others.

Aisha reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, would not sleep before evening prayer and he would not stay up after it.

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 702

Some examples of famous individuals who go to bed early: Tim Cook (CEO of Apple), Jack Dorsey (co-founder of Twitter), and Jeff Bezos (founder and CEO of Amazon).

Gratitude is another habit of the successful (both in this life and the next). We should strive to make feeling gratitude to Allah a daily practice.

“If ye are grateful, I will add more (favours) unto you.” Quran 14:7

Many successful people know that if they want more they first must be thankful for what they already have.

“Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.” Charles Dickens

“If a fellow isn’t thankful for what he’s got, he isn’t likely to be thankful for what he’s going to get.” Frank A. Clark

“If you want to turn your life around, try thankfulness. It will change your life mightily.” Gerald Good

“Gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity…it makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” Melody Beattie

“He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.” Epictetus

“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” Oprah Winfrey

“Thankfulness is the beginning of gratitude. Gratitude is the completion of thankfulness. Thankfulness may consist merely of words. Gratitude is shown in acts.” Henri Frederic Amiel

“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.” Willie Nelson

“It is impossible to feel grateful and depressed in the same moment.” Naomi Williams

“In ordinary life, we hardly realize that we receive a great deal more than we give, and that it is only with gratitude that life becomes rich.” Dietrich Bonhoeffer

In summary, if you want to be successful (both in this life and the next) be sure to feel gratitude to Allah (and do actions that match up with what He wills for us to do), go to bed early (ideally right after Aisha prayer), and wake up early and pray Tahajjud (while making dua for your goals and working towards them as well).

Wishing for you to find your way to the successful path both in this life and the next!

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The 5 Love Languages + Marriage Advice

 

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Today we will be discussing “The 5 Love Languages” by the Christian author Gary Chapman. We will also be discussing some major points from Dr. John Gottman’s work.

Both of these authors shared influential knowledge that made a major impact in the current state of marriages. The 5 Love Languages is considered, by many, to be one of the most straightforward and helpful approaches to marriage improvement. Dr. John Gottman studied what makes good marriages tick, and what the warning signs of a failing marriage are, so that we can better avoid falling into those problems.

The 5 Love Languages basically states that we each have our own primary “love languages” in which we prefer. If your spouse or family member neglects this then it can lead to you feeling unloved despite their efforts. They are just communicating in a different “language”.

The 5 love languages are:

1. Words of Affirmation – Compliments, kind words, mentioning things you appreciate, etc.
2. Acts of Service – Doing things the other person would appreciate such as filling the car tank with gas, mowing the lawn, doing the dishes, etc.
3. Receiving Gifts – These individuals may not to be greedy but may associate feelings of happiness with getting gifts. This may stem from childhood and how their parents may have shown their love. It isn’t the gift itself, generally, but the positive feeling associated with being thought of that is appreciated.
4. Quality Time – Going out together, seeing new things, cooking together, etc.
5. Physical Touch – Getting a massage from your spouse, kisses, caresses, etc.

The amazing thing is that the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh – Peace and blessings be upon him), and his companions, already taught us these things. If we follow the Quran and Sunnah, as it is meant to be followed, we can work towards achieving an ideal life in this life and the next.

Here are some examples:

1. Words of Affirmation – There are many examples of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) speaking kind words to and about his wives. We should follow his example. The Prophet  said that value of ‘Ā’ishah (may Allāh be pleased with her) among women was the same value of tharīd (bread soaked in soup) compared to other foods. (Muslim) This was considered a compliment and praise due to the fact that this food was considered one of the best. The Prophet  was once asked by ‘Amr b. al-‘Āṣ, “O Messenger of Allāh, who do you love most?” The Messenger of Allāh  replied “‘Ā’ishah.” He was not afraid to speak out about his love for his wife. We should also do the same for our spouse.
2. Acts of Service –  Ibn ‘Abbās would always brush his hair and make sure his appearance is pleasing before entering his home, he would say, “Just as I would like my wife to beautiful for me, I like to look beautiful for her.” (Tirmidhi) We should do our best to beautify ourselves for our spouses (men and women alike) and look our best when we see them. This can help increase the love and attraction for each other. ‘Ā’ishah (may Allāh be pleased with her) reported: “When the messenger of Allāh  was in the mosque he put his head in to my place and I combed his hair.” (Muslim) This one also doubles as physical touch and quality time! The Prophet  was described by his wife that ‘he was in the service of his family’ (Bukhāri). He would help his family with sewing clothes, repairing items, sweeping, etc.
3. Receiving Gifts – Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Give each other gifts and you will love each other.” For many this is the ultimate way to show affection. It truly can work to calm a touch situation, with a family member/spouse, and increase love between you as well. This may be one of the most effective methods.
4. Quality Time – Giving your undivided attention is truly an important aspect, of a quality marriage, that many of us may be neglecting. This was also mentioned by Dr. John Gottman as “turning towards”. When our spouse/family members speak we should not only stop what we are currently doing but we should physically turn our bodies towards them and pay full attention. Based on my research the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) would do just this! He would turn his body to completely face the person speaking and would make eye contact. This is a beautiful habit and shows our undivided attention and love for others. We should do our best to acquire this noble attribute. He also waited his turn to speak and listened fully. Once, he was talking to Utba b. Rabia. He said, “O Abul-Walid! Speak! I am listening to you.” When Utba finished his speech and stopped, he asked, “O Abul-Walid! Have you finished speaking?” When he said, “Yes”, the Prophet started to speak by saying, “Then, listen to me now!” It is also recommended as a good quality to spend quality and fun time with your spouse. He  said, “Every game a person plays is futile except for archery, training one’s horse and playing with one’s wife.”  (Tirmidhi, Ibn Mājah, Aḥmad)
5. Physical Touch – ‘Ā’ishah narrates that the Messenger of Allāh  would kiss one of his wives and then leave for prayer without performing wuḍū’. He would show his love to his wives and take care of them. In a ḥadīth, the Messenger of Allāh  said, “Not one of you should fall upon his wife like an animal, but let there first be a messenger between you.” “And what is that messenger?” they asked, and he replied: “Kisses and words.”  (Daylami) It is so important to be kind in every way. It’s beautiful to learn the ideal way to handle every aspect of life.

Some examples are sourced from this link.

So if we decide to follow the Prophet (pbuh), and his sunnah, properly we can benefit not only in the hereafter but now in this life. Islam is the ideal way of life and it can only lead us towards goodness in this life and the next.

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An Interesting Similarity

In the above image you can see what a muslim looks like when they are praying to the one who created all of us.

The one who created Islam, Judaism, and Christianity also formed the method of prayer that we all share similarities in.

It is interesting to note that many Jewish people still pray in the same way.

Here is an image of a Jewish man praying in the traditional form that was followed in the first century:

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Also, here is a diagram of what the prayers look like in traditional Judaism:

This is from the book, “To Pray as a Jew” by Hayim Halevy Donin.

Prayer in Islam has movements nearly identical to these:

Credit for the image

This comes as no surprise due to the fact that the same lord who sent Moses, Jesus, Noah, and Muhammad (peace be with them ALL) sent guidance to all of these groups.

Jesus also worshiped the one who created him by, “Going a little farther, he fell with his face to the ground and prayed” (Matthew 26:39)

Here are more examples of messengers, and other pious people, prostrating to the ONE Creator (Allah).

“And Moses made haste, and bowed his head toward the earth, and worshipped.” – Old Testament (Tanakh) (Exodus 34:8)

Then Moses and Aaron came in from the presence of the assembly to the doorway of the tent of meeting and fell on their faces. Then the glory of the LORD appeared to them (Numbers 20:6)

When the disciples heard this, they fell face down to the ground and were terrified. (Matthew 17:6)

Unfortunately, many religious texts were altered and humans have interfered with the perfect words of our Creator. As a result, many have stopped worshiping our Creator as He deserves. The Quran has been protected by Allah to remain pure and unchanged.

“[Quran 15:9] Absolutely, we have revealed the reminder, and, absolutely, we will preserve it.”

How To Work Towards Living To 100 And Beyond

Some of the longest living cultures in the world include the Okinawans, the Hunzas, and the Macau. To learn how to live as long and as healthily as they have it would be wise for us all to research what these cultures have in common to help them get there.

Some of the things that they all have in common is that they eat a lot of plant foods, they consume raw dairy (not the pasteurized kind that you might find at your local grocery store), they exercise by being active during the day, and they maintain close family and social ties. They also are unlikely to eat junk food/processed foods. Their diet includes whole grains as well.

In summary:

-The majority of your diet should be focused on organic and raw plants

-Consume only raw dairy and raw dairy products

-Eat whole grains and whole grain products instead of refined (brown rice instead of white, 100% whole grain pasta instead of white pasta etc.)

-Be active each day (aim to get 10,000 steps per day)

-Keep in touch with your family members and friends as much as possible (even via online chat/phone calls if that is all that is possible)

-Do not eat processed/junk food

Interesting food for thought:

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “Whoever loves that he be granted more wealth and that his lease of life be prolonged then he should keep good relations with his Kith and kin.” (Bukhari)

 Wishing you all long, happy, healthy, blessed lives!

Sending love and wishes of peace and prosperity and happiness to you and yours.

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The Horrifying Poisons Within Alcohol

Many cultures have known for centuries the dangers of alcohol. Unfortunately, our culture is not yet fully aware of the many dangers, apparent and hidden, that reside within this toxic beverage.

Not only does it impair your ability to think clearly and restrain yourself from things you otherwise would not do it also poisons your body and life itself.

Alcohol can of course cause dizziness, lead to car crashes, and even drowning. High blood pressure, stroke, heart problems, nerve damage, alcohol poisoning, cancer, diabetes, vitamin deficiencies, inflammation, malnutrition, sex and menstruation issues and problems, eye problems, birth defects, bone loss, blackouts, coma, anemia, unconsciousness, breathing difficulties, and so much more!

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You might be thinking, “Well one drink won’t cause that!” You would fall in line with the majority of those who consume alcohol. It actually takes many hours for alcohol to exit your body but even then it may reside in your colon and fester for years, piling up until you could become very sick.

Do yourself and your body, family, and friends a favor and opt to no longer consume this toxic poison.

You can feel much better, lighter, and you can even lose weight by dropping this vice out of your life for good!

For those of you who are religious and need further proof of alcohols problems please see the quotes that follow below:

“Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither …thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortionists will inherit the kingdom of God.” 

-Bible: Romans 13:13

“They ask thee concerning wine and gambling Say, “In them is great sin and some profit, for man; but sin is greater than the profit.”

-Quran: Surah Al-Baqara 2:219

“Do not be among the guzzlers of wine, among the gorgers of meat for themselves, for the guzzler and the gorger will be poor, and slumber will clothe you in tatters”

-Solomon 23:20

Wishing you and yours happiness, health, and overall wellness for eternity!

The Attitude Of Gratitude

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The Power Of Gratitude

Gratitude is something truly powerful and wonderful in many ways. When you appreciate what you already have you open so many doors for new and even more wonderful things to appear in your life!

Gratitude is a means to an end. If you want more love in your life APPRECIATE THE LOVE YOU ALREADY HAVE MORE! If you want more money APPRECIATE THE MONEY (EVEN IF IT’S LITTLE) THAT YOU ALREADY HAVE MORE! If you want a healthy body APPRECIATE THE BODY YOU ALREADY HAVE! And so on…

Appreciation is a key, and is critical, to have anything you want in life as long as you have faith that what you currently appreciate will grow.

Some quotes about gratitude:

Gratitude is the sign of noble souls.

-Aesop

Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for.

-Zig Ziglar

Gratitude is riches. Complaint is poverty.

-Doris Day

What I’ve learned is there’s a scientifically proven phenomenon that’s attached to gratitude, and that if you consciously take note of what is good in your life, quantifiable benefits happen.

-Deborah Norville

If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]

-Quran: [Chapter 14 Verse 7]

Raw Milk – A Superfood

The benefits of raw milk are numerous! It can cleanse your skin, cure constipation and flatulence, promote better sleep, improve the health of your hair, help you lose weight, create glowing skin, and much more!

It is important that the milk is raw because when it has been pasteurized and homogenized it has been heated which causes the enzymes, along with the many health benefits, to go away and even reverse.

A baby cow that is fed processed milk can die within 8 weeks!

Also, modern and industrial farming practices hook up painful machines to their cows that harm the cow and cause it to bleed into the milk supply. To be kind to the cows, and to your own body, only drink raw, hand-milked, milk!

Become friends with a local farmer who hand milks their cows and does not process the milk in any way. This is where true and healthy milk can be found!

Some quotes about milk:

Milk wipes away heat from the heart just as the finger wipes away sweat from the brow. It strengthens the back, improves the brain, renews vision, and drives away forgetfulness. 

-Muhammad

Consumption of milk and milk products as part of a controlled diet helps lose weight faster.

–Rishi Kajain

Wishing you and yours a blissful and peaceful day of happiness!